Back in the Saddle Again

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Well today has been a lil different for me. And I am going to have to take some time to adjust again. You see, once again I am childless. No not my own who is in college. But no longer watching lil ladies at my home again. It is so hard to have had them here and now gone again. My best thing is that they are only across the street. So I can go and see them every day! Whoo Hoo!
It is another long story that is never short so let's just suffice to say that due to unforeseen circumstances I have had to step away from childcare once again. It is hard but will give me time to focus on myself and my health. That is a positive. I lost 30 lbs last year and then took a long nose dive down and gained it all back. So I am step one once again there. Today was the first step to getting back on that exercise band wagon. Otherwise had a great Easter weekend with my grandbabes once again. I feel so blessed to have had them for 3 weekends in a row. What a lovely step daughter to have done that for us.
So now it is back to some serious focus on my blog, budgets, health and home. Wish me well y'all.

A bit of quiet time

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Today life seems quiet. We are all waiting to hear of any outcome for our family with the twins. Still do not know how the dad is doing at the hospital. Family will not relay any information to the mom. The mom is arriving now with the 2 yr old twins and the 4 yr old boy and the 6 yr old girl before she goes to work at the nursing home. I am going to start referring to this family as the Twin Family (TF). There is all sorts of stories flying around our lil town as to what has happened. And to speculation as to who is at fault. This is not making it any easier for the mom or kids. We are also worried on the custody issues since dad is hospitalized in unknown condition. His family is reported to be here to try and take the kids with them. TF mom has contacted her lawyer but he is not seeming to be concerned til he knows what the police say about it all. Meanwhile the school is not sure what to do since the dad had full custody and mom only visitation. It is just too much at one time.

Otherwise we are doing the same as before. Watching the kids, taking them to school and back here. Trying to keep things here on the same schedule as before. Make it where the kids are not worried. I am working on keeping the house up. It seems like we have been up and down so much here lately. With TF mom living with us for a month. She now has a rental. Just get her moved and this happens. CG is getting ready to leave for a new semester. She currently has one of her BFF here visiting for a week. It feels like a revolving door. LOL Dear Nessa across the street says for a calm house we sure do have a lot going on here.

But for now, the babies are sleeping. The TF kids are watching Blue's Clues. I am making coffee for me and hot tea for my mom. Life is not to loud. And we have a lil time for breakfast before we start getting kids off to school. Oh for these quiet times.

Broken Heart

I have not been on for a couple of days. And today was not very good at all. I have mentioned a few times on here that I do child care. And that the family is going through horrible times now. A divorce will happen and the fighting is non-stop. Well today the children were taken away from me. This was not because I have a not cared for them. Nor that one parent or the other is moving from the area. It was not because the children have good care, good food, lots of love and enjoy being here. It is only because they are mad at each other. And can now use me to hurt the other. These children have been here for a year and a half. The mom found me and placed the children here then. She has always been the one who brings them, pays me and provides for their needs here. Dad has the kids right now so he pulled them out. This is because it will hurt the mom. There is no concern on how it will effect the kids. What care they have always had. That life is in an up roar and this is a steady place that stays calm. The kids are not being put first at all. And of course I am hurt. I love them. I miss them. I am worried about how these little ones are handling such a change. They have fighting at home every night. Mom is gone then dad is gone. And now as far as they can tell, we have left them too. I just can't handle this right now.

Peace of Mind

Where is my Peace of Mind

I am a housewife and mom. But I am also a child care provider and an answering service for a local plumber. So I know that my time at home all day long is productive. Not just here "mooching" off the system. Here lately my peace of mind is being stolen. And I do not know how to stop that or to help with the problem. So I am going to share here even though I really do not think there is an answer but to wait, be patient, loving and caring.

The family I do child care for has 21 month old twin girls, a 4 yr old boy and a 6 yr old girl. The twins are here all day and the boy for half a day. The 6 yr old for about an hour in the late afternoon. I have care for this family for over a year now. So you know we are quite attached to them as they are us. Well the problem is that the parents are having some volatile times and are in the process of splitting up. And as we all known there is not a calm during that time.
He said, She did, They can't, Who knows. But the children are getting the brunt of it as we all know. Fighting, police called out, in and out of the house, mom is home or dad is home but always uproar every evening. The girl is hiding, the boy sleeping too much and the twins are clinging to us ever so hard. Mom tells me this, Dad tells me that, I tell them I am the child care provider and do not need to be put in the middle. They need to stop fighting, sit and discuss what to do for kids and household. But no, drinking instead of coping, yelling instead of talking and demanding without listening. My ears hurt, my heart aches, my back is burdened and my emotions are getting raw. We hug the girls, let the boy rest, allow the girl to have her quiet.......and we keep waiting. Three months now and no end in sight. They can not get a legal separation in our state. Have overspent their accounts. No divorce for months even if they could afford a lawyer now. One has lost out on college. The other is putting job second. Not any real family around for support.



I am a mom and housewife. I am nurturing and want to help. I clean by instinct as a nest must not have mess in it. My hubby works 75 hrs a week/7 days a week now. My college girl has to study and give all to school. My mom has a new heart condition and should not be doing much. Stress is in all lives but we try hard to keep it calm here. To have a quiet that is not a silence. I do the majority of all the housework and cooking. I do the majority of the child care and phone service. I do not know if I can keep the balance though. Of calm quiet home and uproar that spills in every time the parents bring or pick up the kids.

I know there is not a solution to a bad thing happening. But it has been weighing in on me. So I needed a place to talk. Thanks for letting me.

Trade a Puppy for your Lil Girl?

Well I made a great trade. Vet bills for child care. Now this is frugal living. LOL
Or just getting lucky, which I really needed.
My daughter's funny looking puppy (short legs, longer body and stocky) came down with Parvo. We tried at home treatment for two days but I was getting really worried for him. So we went to the vet. Now I knew my check was coming in the next day so I could pay a vet bill. But that would take away from paying house payments. So I did not know how I was going to make up for the extra expeness. But the puppy was really ill and you have to take care of your loved ones. So off we went.
We arrived to be greeted by a 20 month old lady of energy. She was able to say hi, pet the puppy, get into dog meds, pull out needles and escape her mom's hand in about 10 seconds flat. After her mom was able to corner her, scoop her up and access why I was there we were able to start our discussion of children and the workplace. I understand why sometimes you have to have your child with you, but it does make it hard to do what you need to do and them get the attention they will get one way or the other. Luckily I do in home childcare. And currently have a family of 20 month old twin girls with their 4 year old brother and 6 year old sister. So after a little talk, treatment for our ill puppy and gathering up of a 20 month old we came to an agreement. I will babysit for her for two weeks and she will pay on my vet bill. So I only paid $37.50 for treating my puppy for parvo. And now we have an extra playmate for a couple of weeks. Pretty neat if you ask me.

day by day life is in motion

Well I know I do not keep up here as I should. But....well that was my whole defense.
There has been so much to do, understand and plan for. Of course, all the plans are not working. We wanted to be here for my youngest step daughter only to see that it is not to be as we hoped. Makes me sad for her and us. So much there but not going to say. My mother has had her first heart attack. Lord above has her here and onary as before. She feels she is not ill and all is fine. I do know that there are changes to be done but she is not wanting to listen to her daughter. She feels that she does not need to eat. And average day of food for her is a bisquit, gravy and a banana. Yes a day! That is all. Then add her cokes and cigs and she is a picture of health. Sure sure!
My husband is doing better and only has a couple of months to go on his meds. I am so glad for him. He is still tired all the time. But there is a end in site for him. My lovely daughter is working hard at college. She loves it. She lives for academia. I am back to doing child care for the twins and their siblings. And still doing minor repairs on my home bit by bit. Also have a large family reunion to get ready for. Time to finish the mail outs there. And as always, money money money. Yeah not enough of it. Duh! Would love to be one of those women who can easily pay bills and buy food. LOL I have not been to the grocery store in over a month. And don't see going anytime soon. But I know how to plan and no one here is the wiser. I seem to be griping too much. Need to look at brighter side of life. I am healty, have a loving family and am in a good home. Just take my meds and feel better.

Well have a good day all. And maybe I will get better at this.