The Saga Continues

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The Twins and I

Well things with the TF is not getting any better. The mom has been arrested and released on a charge of "her friend attacking her husband before any of this stuff happened". I don't know. It does not make a lot of sense. But the out come is that CPS (child protective services) has now been called in.

CPS contacted me last night to see if the kids could all stay here. They did emergency background checks on my mom, DH, CG and myself. And all was approved. Today a worker is to come do a home visit and bring some paperwork. I am not sure when. I am also not sure as to the length of the stay the children will have here. Also the dad's family has placed a protective order against the mom from seeing or being around her children. So currently my family is all that is to be around the children. This is getting more and more messed up for these kids.

Last night we did dinner and baths. Just explaining to the older ones that they were spending the night here. Placed the twins in our room on a spare bed and the older two in the living room right next to it. Today we did morning routine since we have been getting them ready for school here before anyway. Also they spent the Christmas break here too. So life was pretty calm.

Also today I helped CG start packing for her move to the dorms this weekend. We will be converting her bedroom into a sewing room for my mom. This will make a "suite" for my mom at the back of the house. She will have her sewing room, bathroom and bedroom all alone where no one else uses those rooms. Nice huh? I am glad as she needs the space too. We should have the sewing room up and in action by Monday of next week. This is something my mom has wanted for some time. CG is leaving most of her things here but just putting them up. Also she is only taking 2 weeks of clothes with her. She can come home every other weekend and change out clothes. (Letting me do her laundry is a plus for her.)

DH was in a tail spin last night with the turn of events. But he has evened out today and we are working on what we need to prepare for. Also planning on all we need to accomplish this weekend end. He will finally have two days off after working for 26 days straight. Maybe we can get enough done that he can sleep most of Sunday.

In the meantime I am gathering clothes for the children. All I had last night was the clothes they had on. I was able to get 2 to 3 outfits each by going to the mom's house for a little while. I still need to purchase some socks and underwear for them all this evening. And hopefully come up with more warm clothes for the babies. I should be able to get them from the mom's house tonight. Our dear neighbor Nessa has also pitched in with outfits. And she is taking in the TF pets so they will be cared for during this time. We do not know what will happen to the mom or dad now.

Please continue to pray for all these people. I am afraid it will get worse before it gets any better.

Peace of Mind

Where is my Peace of Mind

I am a housewife and mom. But I am also a child care provider and an answering service for a local plumber. So I know that my time at home all day long is productive. Not just here "mooching" off the system. Here lately my peace of mind is being stolen. And I do not know how to stop that or to help with the problem. So I am going to share here even though I really do not think there is an answer but to wait, be patient, loving and caring.

The family I do child care for has 21 month old twin girls, a 4 yr old boy and a 6 yr old girl. The twins are here all day and the boy for half a day. The 6 yr old for about an hour in the late afternoon. I have care for this family for over a year now. So you know we are quite attached to them as they are us. Well the problem is that the parents are having some volatile times and are in the process of splitting up. And as we all known there is not a calm during that time.
He said, She did, They can't, Who knows. But the children are getting the brunt of it as we all know. Fighting, police called out, in and out of the house, mom is home or dad is home but always uproar every evening. The girl is hiding, the boy sleeping too much and the twins are clinging to us ever so hard. Mom tells me this, Dad tells me that, I tell them I am the child care provider and do not need to be put in the middle. They need to stop fighting, sit and discuss what to do for kids and household. But no, drinking instead of coping, yelling instead of talking and demanding without listening. My ears hurt, my heart aches, my back is burdened and my emotions are getting raw. We hug the girls, let the boy rest, allow the girl to have her quiet.......and we keep waiting. Three months now and no end in sight. They can not get a legal separation in our state. Have overspent their accounts. No divorce for months even if they could afford a lawyer now. One has lost out on college. The other is putting job second. Not any real family around for support.



I am a mom and housewife. I am nurturing and want to help. I clean by instinct as a nest must not have mess in it. My hubby works 75 hrs a week/7 days a week now. My college girl has to study and give all to school. My mom has a new heart condition and should not be doing much. Stress is in all lives but we try hard to keep it calm here. To have a quiet that is not a silence. I do the majority of all the housework and cooking. I do the majority of the child care and phone service. I do not know if I can keep the balance though. Of calm quiet home and uproar that spills in every time the parents bring or pick up the kids.

I know there is not a solution to a bad thing happening. But it has been weighing in on me. So I needed a place to talk. Thanks for letting me.