Biological time bombs and the rise of the cougar
By Savannah George, www.marvelous-girl.com
The other day I was chatting with a friend whose father was in his 40s by the time she was born. That got me thinking…with a time frame on our baby-making years, we’re really just hostages of our own fertility. It’s not the biological clock; it’s the biological time bomb.
Meanwhile, men like Charlie Chaplin are having children at the age of 73, while the average American woman is having her first baby at age 25 and experiencing menopause symptoms as early as her 30s! So, I propose a theory: Women would have more fun if unbridled by their fertility.
In fact, that’s why we’re seeing the rise of “cougars” or women age 35+ who are in relationships with younger men. The majority of these women are victims of their biological time bomb, having children and too many responsibilities too young. Consequently, with the divorce rate at an astounding 50%, these women end up single and living out their repressed youth later in life.
For example, one of the most notorious cougars is actress Demi Moore, who had her first child at the age of 26. But, by age 38, Moore was divorced from the father of her children, Bruce Willis. At the age of 43, she remarried Ashton Kutcher, 15 years her junior.
Now that we know the driving forces behind a cougar, it’s easy to identify cubs in training. One person who fits the criteria perfectly is Kate Hudson. Hudson became a mom at the age of 25 and was divorced by 27. Now she’s become know as a “maneater” or “serial dater”. As time passes by and Hudson matures, we’ll likely see her boyfriends staying the same age.
So, what can we do to avoid the biological time bomb? I’d like to think identifying the problem is the first step to solving it. While we can never beat the clock (with exception of freezing our eggs), being aware that life is not a race but a marathon will set us on the right path to fertility freedom.
Interesting...do you think I'm a candidate for a cougar then? I had my first at 19 and I have divorced. I don't think I could date someone who was that much younger than me though. I love Kevin, so I think I'll stick with him. :)
ReplyDeleteHiya Lenore! I so agree with you. Biological time bomb is the perfect term for that. It's true that young people should have this full realization that life is not a race. There's always a time for everything and that they should live one day at a time. But I have nothing against cougars and cubs. I have this thinking that they have their own reasons for being that way. But maybe the biological time bomb is one of the factors. Cool post.
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