I have a special visit today from Other Mom. This is Princess Emma's mom and College Girl's Other Mom (thus her name). While I have been away taking care of my mom she snuck in the house and perused my review books. Having found the ones she wanted to read, she was kind enough to also tell me all about them. So here is her take on the book Bring Out the Best in Your Child and Your Self. And yes that is the beautiful Other Mom right over there. ------->
Thanks to my Friend Lynette here at Crazed Mind, I got the opportunity to read a really great book. Bring Out The Best in Your Child and Your Self by Ilene Val-Essen, Ph.D. is a well written and exceptionally informative book on bettering relationships between parents and children.
This easy to follow book teaches you to be the parent you want to be, to create an environment that brings out the best in your child, how to understand negative behavior and prevent future problems from arising. The book describes the levels of self that we experience and how to stay more centered and calm. It talks about the drive children have to be the best and how to deal with their own frustrations and create a nurturing environment for them and encourage them to do the best that they can individually.
What I enjoyed the most about this book is that it teaches how to do small changes that give big results, such as picking one week to point out good behaviors and praise those with sincerity instead of just working on negative things and pointing out the bad to your child. Praise the good things and have them see what good people they are already and try to improve from there. It teaches responsibility and consistency; yours and theirs as well as consequences versus punishments. The writer took things we all take for granted and shows you how important every day things can be.
The lessons are easily transferred to any relationship you have, not just those with children. It is a wonderful and profound book that I have really enjoyed sharing with my family and I think you may also enjoy. It is broken down into 14 chapters each on a different aspect of building and strengthening you and your child's values, understanding and relationships and teaching the importance of really listening and seeing the underlying cause of acting out.
I think a lot of times parents don't take the time to think about mutual respect.They expect the child to respect them because they say so and don't give respect in return. It is refreshing to me to read a book that not only tells you about respect but shows you why it is important to respect your child as well.
I know with my daughter, it amazes me everyday the sweet and caring girl she is growing into. I am so proud of her and I tell her that, but I also tell her why I am proud. I tell her how beautiful she is and that I am happy that it comes from the inside and shines through.
Even if you do not put to practice everything in this book, the things you learn while reading it will have a wonderful affect on your outlook and it is a very enjoyable read.
DISCLOSURE: I received a complimentary copy of this book to facilitate this review. No other compensation was provided.